I'm OK Not Having A 'Group'.

First things first and that is I absolutely love the show “Friends”. For those who aren’t too familiar with the show, I’ll give you a brief overview of what it’s about. It’s a group of people who share a strong bond by going on adventures together and living their lives together as the series goes on. I mean, who wouldn’t want that? I’ll admit that watching the show over and over again fills me with envy and admiration for this group of people. No matter what happens or what gets in the way, the group is always there for one another. Growing up and still to this day, I haven’t had a ‘group’ of my own such as this show portrays, and I’m okay with that. Occasionally I find myself wishing my life was a lot like “Friends”, but the more I think about it the more I realize that’s not who I am.

I went to two different high schools and both differed greatly. I would be lying if I said cliques weren’t a thing in school growing up. At my first school, it was much smaller than the other, cliques weren’t as prominent compared to the other school, that was much larger. I never found myself in a clique and I wasn’t mad. I’m an introverted, keep to myself kind of person. I do love meeting new people, making friends as I go and being social, using these skills in my life as I please. Don’t let me give you the wrong idea – it’s not like I’m adapting to a group and then just ditching them without any reason, it’s the opposite actually. One thing I like about myself is that I’m good at making a lot of different friends wherever I go.

To be completely honest I would get bored and probably go insane if I just had one group. Being an introvert, I do like time to myself, but I am also social and I find a way to channel that in everything I do. I love meeting new people and making friends wherever I go. Whether that’d be at work, through social media, or through friends – I am constantly meeting new people and making something of it as I go. Having a variety of groups is just my thing and I love it. I have friends at work, the gym, through social media, church…the list goes on. In my twenty-something years here I have made a variety of connections.

If there are plans to do something with a large group, I am normally invited by someone or help coordinate it. There are no group chats to make plans, which is quite nice. I never have to go through the hassle of making plans or anything, I usually go with the flow or hangout with smaller groups. Also, there is no drama whatsoever!! I avoid drama at all costs and that can be a reoccurring thing in groups. I mean think about it, if you spend a significant amount of time with certain people, things are going to happen – it’s inevitable. On the show “Friends” it wasn’t just rainbows and sunshine the whole time, they had their moments too. I have observed lots of drama unfold through my years and I just keep myself out of the fire as much as I can. I have a very small list of those I go to about my personal life when I need to dish it all out, but it doesn’t get spread around. If it does, you should probably reevaluate those you choose to go to.

I’m not here to poop on anyone that has their very own Scooby gang or anything like that. I don’t have one, I’m happy, but props to the people who do. But, I still have the Rachel to my Monica, and I am totally okay with that. It does get hard to get all of my friends together, but you learn to get used to it. I wouldn’t change the way I am. I love the way I live and the people I have met and will continue to meet throughout the years.

- B